Maddie's parents, Kate and Gerry McCann
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Articles By: BEATE KRAUSE released on
02.05.2017 - 10:24 h
Dr. Christian Lüdke has been working in the care of violence and crime victims for about 25 years, taking care of people who have lost relatives through accidents, murder or terrorist attacks (such as last time at the "Berliner Breitscheidplatz"). He was responsible for the psychological training of special units at NRW police for many years.
When little Maddie disappeared without a trace, Lüdke said a few months later about the parents' behavior, Kate and Gerry McCann (now 49). This had made him "stupid" because it does not correspond to the behavior of parents in similar situations, which he has supervised in the past years.
The psychotherapist did not rule out the fact that Maddie's parents might have been guilty of her daughter's disappearance and may have had something to do with her death. His opinion met with criticism at the time, and Lüdke was attacked and even threatened.
Maddies parents at a press conference in Berlin 2007
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Berlin / Essen - Now, ten years later, BILD wanted to know from him: "How do you see the Maddie case and the role of parents today?"
Dr. Christian Lüdke: "For me the behavior of the McCanns is still exceptionally unusual and atypical. In my work, I have never experienced the fact that parents whose children have disappeared behave like the McCanns: they looked extremely controlled and controlled, have left nothing to themselves. Shortly thereafter, they went jogging, traveled around the world, started the search.
All this still amazes me, because first of all they were for me first victims, whose child has disappeared. "
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But is it not comprehensible to divert a piece of normality?
Lüdke: "No question, but I have seen that other parents are usually affected by other mechanisms: they are completely shocked, are 'outside of themselves' and feel themselves in the 'wrong film'. They experience an alternating bath of feelings between hope and fear, which can last for years, until such time as there are certain insights. Of course they also try to distract themselves. But a 'normal' life can not usually be talked about, it is more a 'functioning'. For such parents are a monstrosity, two laws of life were broken: 1. Your child died before them, and 2. It has not died a natural death. This makes her, in the truest sense, 'heartbroken'.
In addition, parents often make mutual reproaches: who has done what or why. This leads to bad debt. Many couples do not stop this, separate. In contrast to the McCanns, they were very connected from the beginning, they also showed their great closeness in public. "
The McCanns in May 2012 at a run event in Liverpool. With their participation they wanted to draw attention to their missing daughter
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There are several theories that might have happened in the case of Maddie. Could it really be that the McCanns had killed their child or hid a deadly accident?
Lüdke: "For me as an outsider, this can not be answered. But there are cases where mothers suffer from a disorder and can not build a (strong) emotional, loving attachment to their child. Then the child can become a disruptive factor, one must get rid of, often shortly after birth.
This type of "conflict resolution" can also happen years later - because the problem is initially superimposed, for example when partnership and work seems to be going well. But it can come back later - and a catastrophe occurs.
Maddie was begotten by artificial insemination, the parents had tried in vain to get a child in the normal way for many years. Perhaps this fact also affected the partnership. "
Even at the then Pope Benedict XVI, Kate McCann, a Catholic believer, was present in Maddie's search campaign (archive photo of May 30, 2007)
Photo: dpa
If the parents were actually involved in Maddie's death - how could they have lived with that debt so long? As faithful Catholics, they even had Pope Benedict XVI. met.
Lüdke: "There are people who make it to such an act to reinterpret an intolerable reality: rather than supplant the fact, they create a new, their own truth in a creative process.
Maddie's parents still claim that their daughter is alive. Even if there is - objectively speaking - no indications. "
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